Couples Therapy

Therapy can help ease pain and suffering.  It's a process which can bring you to feel more calm, clear, in control, and satisfied in your life.  This applies to your relationships as well.

Why have Couples Counselling?
If you're in a relationship, you're most likely in it because you want connection.  Whether it's physical, emotional, intellectual, or all of the above... deep down, you desire connection with another human being.  So why is it so difficult sometimes?  Because it is.

Couples counselling can help you reconnect with your partner by helping you to find ways to balance your own needs and desires with that of your partner’s.  It can increase satisfaction and closeness between you, and increase your physical and emotional intimacy.  It is a process that can explore new ways to tackle old problems, and as a couple, help to increase your confidence in being a ‘team’.  It can help you create limits and boundaries when a relationship is unbalanced or unhealthy.

Common struggles include:
-unresolved conflict
-family transitions (including new baby)
-emotional distance such as loss of passion, disconnectedness, or infidelity (affairs)
-martial breakdown & separation
-parenting or financial conflicts
-addictions (gambling, sex, substance, work, shopping, etc.)
-chronic depression or mood struggles, physical illness, palliation or grief & loss (death, unemployment, traumatic events)

How does couples counselling work?
First, both members of the couple attend a session with me where we start by exploring your love story.  Then in the couples counselling process, we move into exploring your feelings, the dynamics between you, the goals you have individually and together, your emotional needs (referred to as attachment needs).  The purpose of this exploration is to help create a deeper understanding and appreciation for one another, and to repair connection (or clarify need to separate, in some cases).
The number of sessions required for a couple can vary, but success for rebuilding is shown to happen between 8 - 20 sessions on average.  On top of this, one session each individually is important.

What about the therapist?
Keep in mind that any successful therapy requires a therapist that is trust-worthy, supportive, professional, accepting, and who can create an authentic relationship with you.  While I cannot control everything, I do my best to be genuine, non-judgemental, gentle, creative and caring to all of my clients. There may be times when I challenge you in ways that might feel uncomfortable, I only do this if it’s perceived to be helpful.

Couples Counselling for Chronic or Life-threatening Illness or End-of-life Support and Planning

A unique struggle occurs for a couple when one member is terminally ill or nearing end-of-life.  This is a time of extreme stress, and many couples find it challenging and frightening.  This is also an opportunity for healing, and should be addressed as such to make the experience as meaningful as possible for both members.  Relationships are complicated, and the grief process is therefore also complicated for many people.  Therapy can provide a safe, intimate place for difficult conversations about health, life and death. 
As a professional, I have experience working with terminally ill and palliative peopl.  I am dedicated to using my skills and energy to create the best possible end-of-life experiences for people and their loved ones through individual and couples counselling. 
Chronic illness, such as physical pain, incurable disease, mood struggles, or long-standing unwellness also presents challenges for a couple.  If you are finding that a chronic illness is negatively affecting your relationship with your partner, you may find couples counselling helpful.  My experience in healthcare has provided me with an understanding of the complexities of chronic illness, which informs the work I do with clients.  It is important to me that you feel supported in these challenges and in our healthcare system.

If you are in need of help right away, please contact Befrienders for your local crisis centre.