the key to enjoying motherhood

Whether it’s laughing with your kids at bedtime, sharing stories about each other’s day at the dinner table, or taking your kids to swimming lessons Sunday afternoons…

When you have enough energy to get through the day with ease, motherhood feels so much more enjoyable! Right??

You will find so much pleasure in the little moments if you're in a calm body with a quiet mind.

But if you’re like many Moms, you may feel drained a lot of the time.

You might feel irritable, with very little patience for your kids or your partner.

Then you feel guilty for being short with them, or for not wanting to take your kiddo to the park when he asks.

You still feel joy when you think about your beautiful kids' faces, and you appreciate the contributions your partner makes, but if you’re honest with yourself, life seems to be getting harder, and more exhausting than ever.

Chances are, the number one thing blocking you from having more energy and enjoying motherhood is resentment.

The weight of resentment makes every household thing you do (whether it’s cleaning the lunch boxes, cleaning the bed sheets, or booking summer camps) 10 times more draining than the actual tasks themselves.

Resentment is like dragging a crappy plastic wagon filled with bags of sand around with you wherever you go.

The longer it stays, the more it becomes like a sealed vault around your heart that not even the world’s best locksmith can crack open.

With your heart so heavily protected, your love becomes conditional… for yourself, for your kids, and for your partner.

You freak out when your kiddo doesn’t put her clothes in the hamper like you’ve asked her a million times before.

When Mama’s not feeling good, the whole house suffers.

Let me be clear: you probably have really good reasons to be resentful.

Afterall, society doesn’t exactly support moms the way we need.

But it’s up to you whether you keep it stored in your body where it takes your energy, or find a way to release it and reclaim your vitality for yourself, your kids, and your family.

Resentment is usually the result of:

#1 - being in a chronically stressed state and calculating how much work you’ve done versus how much your partner has done (because of a deep fear of being taken advantage of),

Or

#2 - being afraid to express your need for appreciation to your partner or ask for help (you’re used to sacrificing your needs for the needs of others because of a hidden belief that you’re not worthy of love)

If you have a highly sensitive nervous system (which makes you acutely aware of how your partner or kids are feeling all the time) you might be more prone to carrying around resentment in an attempt to uphold the peace.

Your life force energy dries up like a drop of water in a desert, making your days feel more exhausting than they already are.

Motherhood is a sacred time in a woman's life that is meant to be enjoyed to the fullest.

Not every moment, of course, but the majority of it.

You’re meant to feel victorious as a guardian to your kids and teammate to your partner.

The more you release resentment from your mind and body, the more you will have enough energy to be the best mother and partner deep down you know you truly are.

Because it’s not about who does the dishes,

It’s about the hugs and bedtime story-reading with your kids.

It’s not about who took out the garbage this week,

It’s about having enough energy to go on a bike ride with your kids, and still have a glass of wine with your partner in the evening.

You can ditch the resentment, no matter how long it’s been hanging around.

By letting go of those old, subconscious beliefs about yourself,

… that come from your past traumas (yours or your ancestors),

… that live in your mind and body,

… so you can finally allow yourself to enjoy being part of an imperfect but loving family,

… and release the need for your partner to be or do something for that to happen.

If you’re ready to embrace the sacred role of mother with your whole heart, and release resentment and fear from your body so you can have your energy back, book an exploration call with me to see if an Accelerated EMDR Psychotherapy Program is right for you.

I'd love to support you so you can enjoy motherhood to the greatest extent possible, and find peace in your relationship!

Book your first session to get started - therapy@andreaskitch.com